Our perspective is our reality. The experiences that we have been through have a great deal to do with how we perceive our present circumstances. "Our truth" is not necessarily THE Truth. So much of who we are is shaped by what we've experienced and how we absorb those experiences into our heart and mind. We have to make very conscious choices to know our own sensitivities and skewed filters. Without this awareness, we will always blame others for everything that goes on in our lives (especially that which we feel is unjust or negative). Further, we will continue to label ourselves "the victim" (whether outrightly, or simply in the way we comport ourselves), and this is never profitable. We are MORE than conquerors through Christ (Romans 8:37)! We are overcomers (John 16:33) with plans and purposes (Eph 1:4)! We are mighty through God (2 Cor 10)!
Until we grab ahold of the labels that Christ has put on us, and choose to attach those labels to ourselves, we will not have the perspective of Christ. Our truth will not be His Truth. Our reality will not be in line with REALITY. I have found, in my own life, that if I don't INTENTIONALLY align my thoughts and reactions to the reality of Christ and His Truth, every other thing is off. I cannot just trust my own heart and perceptions (Jeremiah 17:9). If I do, every single area of my life is affected by this. Every relationship and every interpretation that I form will be askew.
It takes a conscious willingness to know ourselves in light of Christ and what Truth is and says about us. It takes courage, but the profit margin is well in our favor if we choose to live this way!